Round about New Year's Day of this year I decided that 2011 was going to be a great year. At the time, it was mostly just a sort of "decision" I'd made, based on some sort of inward exuberance... as if I could just
will my decision into reality. Right. Wishing always works, doesn't it?
As it turns out, this year didn't start off as well as I'd wished: my grandmother passed away in early January, followed by my dad just a few weeks later. Dad had been diagnosed with Lupus several years ago, but apparently had also had (for want of a better word)
latent lung cancer. It seems that his cancer symptoms had been masked by conditions attributable to his Lupus, or potential side-effects of the many medications he was on for it. By the time they detected and diagnosed Dad's lung cancer, it had already metastasized to his bones. Dad died within a week of the cancer diagnosis. I don't know if it was the cancer that killed him. I don't guess it makes much difference. Nobody could
wish it away.
At one time or another, we've all said words to the effect of how we "...wish we'd [done something or other]..." or "wished that [something or other] hadn't happened." It's really just a way we humans have of expressing regret or sympathy. Inside, we all know that wishing will never change what's past. And here's the thing: not only does wishing not change the past, wishing alone can never, ever shape our future. To be clear: for our wishes and dreams to be made real, they also require our action. So while I wish that my dad was still alive, he's not and there's nothing I can do to change that. However, what I will do is always remember what was best in him and use my actions to carry those things forward into the world.
So I will continue to
wish for a world where people don't have to needlessly suffer cancer,
and I will
act to make that world real. I will do that just as I have done for the last 8 years: by
relentlessly cajoling everyone I know to
sponsor me on the Pan Mass Challenge: a 2-day, 192-mile bike ride to raise money for cancer research and treatment. I will continue to ride in support of cancer survivors, in memory of its victims and to help the researchers and doctors searching for a cure and more effective treatments.
Please join me in making 2011 a truly great year: take action on your wishes.
/doug